Anger management is the process of learning to recognize signs that you’re becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a positive way. Anger management doesn’t try to keep you from feeling anger or encourage you to hold it in. Children too may need help in managing their anger
It is never too soon to teach your child how to control his/her anger so that it doesn’t control him/her. Remember, however, that it is difficult for young children to master these strategies. Your child will need your help—and a lot of practice:
- Stop. If your child is feeling out of control, he/she should be separated from the person he/she feels like hurting. He/She should leave the room. As often happens with children kids need a parent to get them to stop.
- Calm down. Teach your child to use some calming strategies when he/she feels the physical symptoms of anger. He/She can try taking deep breaths, drinking a glass of water, distracting him/herself with a song or a story, or playing alone.
- Think before you act. Encourage your child to ask himself/herself, “What do I want to happen?” Explain that vengeance and retaliation are not worth acting on. Being understood and making things right are worthwhile.
- Consider the other person’s feelings. Children can begin to show empathy as young as 3 years old, but they need your help. Try to get him/her to understand the other person’s point of view, just as he/she wants his/her point of view understood. E.g Sonie wanted her birthday card to be perfect. Sam knew his efforts could never live up to hers. See if your child can figure out why the other person doesn’t understand his/her side. Could he/she find another way to get her view across more clearly? Can he/she try to let it go?
- Look for possible solutions. Help your child see beyond “I hate you and you’re no good.” See if you can find a compromise that both parties can agree on. Apologizing often helps. By this stage maybe Sam could come to understand that he must let Sonie make her own card, and maybe she can help him with his.
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